A little walk through history and we have the first man a woman on earth, two radical entities, coming together as one. We are all too familiar with this stories. Yet, some of us say, “how can I fall in love with a total stranger?”, “How could you follow him out, a total stranger?”, “ why feel so comfortable with her even on a first date? “What is happening to you, have you met before?” And so on and so forth.
I guess you are wondering where I am going with this. These two were once strangers hooking up to becoming excellent lovers. It has always taken individuals from separate homes, backgrounds and lifestyles coming together to become partners. It has been, from a meeting, to an interaction, to a connection and then to a relationship.
No two lovers came together from inception. In time past, there have been stories of siblings getting married and relatives getting together. Even at that, it still need for the two of them to get to know themselves before settling down together. It still required that some level of mutuality be established.
There are lots of people who get so apprehensive and sceptical of strangers. They feel so exposed and threatened by the presence of a stranger in their lives or their environment. They would not dare talk to a stranger or let a stranger talk to them. Amusingly, these set of people secretly to fine the women or men of their dreams and fall in love with them.
A lot of parents will give serious objections and disagreements to their children going out with a stranger. Friends strongly discourage their friends from going to sit out with a stranger, government agencies, religious groups and lot of other organizations send out strong warnings about people having anything to do with strangers.
Yes, obviously, we all need to be very vigilant and conscious because of evident security concerns. Yet, this does not mean we need to be totally aversive of interacting with strangers. Certainly, no one is promoting carelessness or rash behaviours. The truth is that there are many singles especially, who have sworn never to talk to a stranger whether male or female.
Some ladies have acted very panicky when approached by a stranger in a rather safe and secure settings not for fear of harm but pure dislike of strangers. Some have been out rightly aggressive and rude. Some men have chickened out of the approaching a later because they have never seen her before. There are just some unfounded fear by some persons of strangers.
With this, some people wonder how people fall in love and the simple answer is that many turned acute strangers into soul mates. Many have found the love of their lives, on the streets, on the plane, at the office. It is a very small percentage of people that get to marry or fall in love with childhood friends.
A lot of people get together with pure strangers. It all starts with an open mind, then a conversation, then another conversation and another until a bond is created and nourished to full strength. It begins with the knowledge that our destinies are not limited to any particular place or place.
There is not remote or subtly implication of recklessness here. No one rush into anything with complete stranger in a flash. However, keeping an accommodating mind and gradually building a connection is key to transforming a stranger to a soulmate. The truth is, many of our significant others will only be found outside on the streets of life. So, talk to that stranger today and let that stranger talk to you while being as careful as possible. You can never tell…
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