Is the concept of divorce or separation still strange to you? If so, I am almost tempted to ask, “where are your returning from?” In almost all societies in recent times, there has been an upsurge in the number of marriages that are being dissolved. Infact, this rise in proportion is even visible on a daily basis.
With this obvious reality staring each and everyone of us in the face, has come the need for parting couples to find ways to coming together to care for the children. This has culminated into the concept of co-parenting whereby the two parents, decide to work hand in hand in dealing with the children even when they are not living together.
Co-parenting is a relatively new subject of discuss and enquiry. This is partly due to the fact that the practice of divorce or separation is not completely domiciled in many socities and also because, not many parents give high priority and attention to how the kids are faring after a divorce or separation has occurred. However, co-parenting has risen in significance with the increasing cases of divorce and broken homes. Thus, it becomes necessity that the advantages of this be examined.
The Advantages Of Co-parenting
It is always safe to start on the positive note. Thus, we’ll see what good co-parenting brings and to what extent it can be beneficial both to parents and their kids.
1. Co-parenting Creates An Atmosphere And A Feeling Of Oneness And Unity
Sometimes, all we need to thrive is a favourable space where we feel comfortable and secure. Normally, this is what the home usually offers. Still, in a situation of a broken home, the members still need to have this feeling. Co-parenting helps to maintain a situation where the family still feel as though they are together and are still working together. Even though many may want to see this as false hope, it is evident that even false hope can propel us to such great heights unimaginable. So, co-parenting registers this sweet feeling in the minds of children and even parents and it helps them to function properly.
2. Fosters Smooth Flow Of Positive Feeling Of Love And Affection
At whatever point the necessary attention is available, people always feel valued and love. The level of attention children get when the parents agree to work together is usually more than that from a single parent. In such a situation, children are likely to feel important, cherished and love. This feeling alone is enough to build them up as whole individuals even with the knowledge that their parents are no longer together.
3. There Is Room For Better Decisions And Plan
Often we hear the submission that two heads are better than one. This has held true in numerous instances and situations. Unlike a single parent trying to do all the calculations and figure out the lives of the kids alone which might be one-sided, coming together of both parents makes way for more thoughtful and well analysed decisions and plans concerning the kids. The combination of perspective helps in bringing better solutions to issues and making informed decisions.
4. Co-parenting Promotes Better Welfare For Children
In many cases, parents after separation consider provision of children’s welfare as mere legal obligation. They do it as a call of duty without genuine interest and care. Taking care of the kids goes beyond the fulfilment of statutory responsibilities. It goes beyond making money available for one thing or the other. When parents decide on co-parenting, the needs of kids are usually better met. Here, there will not be any proportion of contribution or laid out roles and duties, whichever of the parents detects a need faster will be eager to fix it. If there are issues that need huge demands and financial commitment, it will be easier to handle as the two parents can easily pull resources together. In this way, providing for the kids becomes more of a natural instincts than just honouring a part of a deal.
There is always a means of favourably dealing with uncomfortable situations. Even though the means may not satisfy all the defects, it will help to remedy a whole lot of issues. Co-parenting is not a error-proof solution to dealing with kids of broken homes. It still has some consequences and demerits. However, for one, it can help to adequately take care of the welfare needs of children.
Accordingly, instead of parents pulling apart and relegating the work of parenting to only one party, they can decide to work together and sort out what is best for their kids. Certainly, it is not easy to forgo all the hurt and pains, but for the sake of the children, separated parents should be more willing to embrace co-parenting.
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