It is quite understandable that due to some factors whether logical or otherwise, many marriages fail to stand the test of time. Though, unlike before, the rate at which marriages get dissolved in recent time is steadily on the increase. A lot of theories have been advanced to explain this surge. However, the focus for today is on how separated parents could still be actively involved and present in the lives of their children.
On many occasions, it has occurred that parents get cut off from their kids for one reason or the other when the marriage is no longer viable. From physical distance to emotional distance, divorced parents sometimes find it quite difficult to keep a smooth flowing connection with their children.
In cases where custody is granted to one of the parent, it becomes a horrific task on the other parent to try and be involved and active in the life or the child or children as the case may be. So we see that the quest of Separated parents to reach out and be with their kids is not really and easy one.
Uncertainties about how to deal with children after calling off a union is much. Thus, parents are left to wonder what to do and even feel terrible for the way things went. Thus, this article is designed to serve as a guide to parents in this type of situation.
One key way of connecting with kids after separation is by maintaining a functional physical presence. Sadly, a number of parents become totally absent from their kids if the marriage fails. Frequently, a parent who is not in custody of the child or children completely alienates his or herself from the kids maybe due to having another family or due to the division of the home. In no time, there is going to be a breach in communication between such a parent and the children.
Thus, though the family is no longer together, parents who want to enjoy a good rapport with their kids and be able to create impact and have influence in the lives of their kids must make every effort to be physically present. There has to be regular and frequent physical meet ups and spending of quality time together.
Ensuring adequate provision of daily and material needs can help in fostering a cordial relationship between parents and kids even when the home is no longer together. Giving children the needed and necessary care will reassure them of being wanted and loved by the parents. They will understand that they have not become less important just because their parents are no longer together.
Having their needs promptly and adequately catered for takes away the chance for doubts and accusations of insensitivity.
Another great way to maintain a cordial relationship with kids is being willing to come together and cooperate with the each other when making major plans concerning their kids. This will communicate to a large extent to kids that they still ocupy a great position of priority. Children will most likely accept decisions and plans agreed upon by both parents and be willing to go through with such. So, if the wish is to keep close to your kids, you should not let some crucial decisions to be taken by only one parent.
Still on the measures to maintain an active and viable connection with kids after the home has been broken is maintaining a functional line of communication. To be involved, you need to know what is going on. Thus, the only way to keep updated with what is going on in your kid’s life is by frequently interacting.
Through these interactions, it will be easy to obtain necessary information and be able to act accordingly. Sometimes, kids may just need someone to talk to, if you are not constantly in touch, it iS very easy for there to be a lull in your flow and in your relationship with your kids.
It has often been said, that it is pointless crying over spilt milk. On the contrary, steps should be taken by the parents to ensure that their separation does not tell on the kids or bring up more harmful conditions. So, it is wise for parents to try all possible ways to remain relevant and welcomed in the life of their kids.
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