Sharing a deep connection, for most married couples, goes beyond wearing matching outfits on their wedding days. These connections transcends beyond what mere eyes can see and hands can touch. A deep connection with your spouse means you get to listen to them even when they’re silent cos, that’s when they talk the most. When your partner can’t seem to get the words right, you can literally feel the person’s thought process. More like a symbiotic relationship, you two kind of know what each other are thinking. This doesn’t mean you’re some spiritualists or psychics, it just means you both have spent quality time with each other to the point that you know each other way too well.
For some, a deep connection is letting your partner see you in your down moments and, this is because he/she is the only person that can understand you way better. No matter how pained you are, you don’t let just anybody see you that way. There are people you know you can’t hide “yourself” from and, that includes your spouse. Your spouse is your second skin; an integral part of your life so, they can readily decode when something is wrong with you. This connection grew from somewhere to this very extent and, it takes lots of dedication and hard work to get it to this point.
For most couples, a deep connection could mean anything they both share in common that they still find joy doing till date. It’s saddening to know that most married couples don’t even know what they both share in common; neither do they know what they like individually. Creating moments that matter to them is such a herculean task and, in no distant time, it gradually tears them apart. For this aspect, they gotta sit together, think everything through and work out modalities on how to bond well with each other.
Making a meal together is another great way a couple could kickstart and grow the deep connection with each other. Whether they’re foodies or not, it doesn’t really matter. As long as they both get to be in each other’s space and share candid yet, fun moments while cooking, it’ll help create an avenue to know parts of each other they never knew existed. Creating a connecting bond with your spouse means you gotta work real hard for it. It doesn’t happen by mere wishing or happenstance; it entails a lot more. To save the day, first find out similarities you both share, work on them and find a common ground. There’s actually no laid down rule to how this deep connection should be created; you and your spouse have to make deliberate and tangible efforts to make this work.
By: Nonye Uwandi