By now, you must have formed a huge frown on your face reading this title. You must be wondering how logically sound this title is. What ever your interpretation is, we can fit it into this title. In truth, we don’t actually fail at anything unless we decide to see it as such.
How does and how can failure be a blessing? This is the perplexing question this article will answer for all of us. Many people see different things in different ways and this affects our actions and inactions afterwards.
What does failure really mean? How do you define failure as a person? What attitude do you have about failure? The answers to these questions will detect to a greater extent your direction of response to any event you consider to be a failure.
In the context of our discourse, failure is mostly viewed as an omission of occurrence or performance specifically : a failing to perform a duty or expected action, that is lack of success. It is a state or condition of not meeting a desirable or intended objective, opposite of success. The statements above very aptly portrays what failure on general note is. Many humans hastily subscribe to this definition which in literal sense is completely adequate.
At what point do we fail?
So, let’s look at this concept in practical terms. The first thing we should consider is, at what point does failure actually occur? The definition of the terms states a lack of success as being failure, however it doesn’t state how many times this lack of success has to occur for it to be called failure. It doesn’t also state, how many times one has to attempt a thing before concluding to have failed.
This now becomes a matter of mindset. As an individual, at what point do you accept defeat and give up? When do you decide you have been humiliated enough to quit? As can be seen, it is when these conclusions have been drawn that failure is pronounced. Otherwise, keeping on the struggle takes these final feelings out and sustains hope for success.
Can we completely avoid failure?
Over the years, thousands of books have been written about how to succeed in various areas of human endeavors. These books takes time to explain one success principle or another. The unfortunate thing however is that very few of them mention failure as a key denominator in all success stories. Very few recognize that a prevalent feature in pursuit of success is failure. Very few, fortunate persons get it right at the first time, or the second or the third. Which is why we asked the first question, at what point can we say we have failed? If we were to catalogue all the stories of successful people, we will discover that it is only an insignificant percent, if any at all, that will not confess to having failed at their pursuit a couple of times.
Frequently, you will be advised not to wait to make your own mistake and have your own failure, that you can learn from the failures and experience of others before you. In reality, due to our individual differences and disposition most humans usually have their own misfortune to encounter and face in any enterprise. As such, if you are risk aversive in bid not to fail, it means you have no plans to succeed at all. Failure is a vital ingredient of success. Failure is an inevitable part of our existence, it is only through failure that we learn from our mistakes and rise to be stronger again.
What can failure do for you? What blessing can failure bring? Let’s proceed to the next segment. What Good can come from failure? Evidently, just as the concept has a negative undertone to it, most people are often pushed to view it in completely negative lights. Nothing good or beneficial can come out of failure they submit.
Sadly, some people are even immobilized by the fear of failure that they decide not to even try in the first place. To these, success will never be achieved because the path to success is equally the path to failure. The determining factor is how you walk in it. There are many lessons failure so graciously teaches us. Our reactions and attention to failed attempts determine how and if we get these lessons.
Some of the key blessings we can receive from failure include:
How not to fail: though this might seem funny, however it is the truth. The first blessing of failure is that if we carefully analyse what happened, we will know what to do better next time. Failing builds curiosity which will lead for us gathering more information and skills about a subject. This positions us better for future venture. It points out all the red flags to avoid and shows alternative ways of embarking on our failure.
Patience and Perseverance: it is popularly said that patience is a virtue. Obviously, when looking at arriving at success, the saying holds so much truth. Failure over time helps you develop patience. To be willing to start over again, follow the steps carefully, reinvest time and efforts, surely requires a great deal of patience. We also get learn how to keep at a task until we finally surmount it. Our ability to persevere is increased when we decide to restart a project after initial failure. These are attributes very necessary for life.
Innovation: failure leads us to restructure and remoulded our techniques. It leads us to think of different ways to undertake our tasks thus building an innovative spirit in us. Since no one loves to be a perpetual failure, we’ll make effort to invent other methods, thus growing our innovative capacities.
Experience: though we might be tempted to dismiss the facts, having a second go at a task or project after failure offers the individual ample experience in such an endeavour. With this experience, one will know what to and what not to do. Failure exposes one to the intricacies and complexes associated with any pursuit. Actually, a variety of benefits can arise from failure. Depending on how relative positive one is, many useful morals can be deduced from any negative experience.
How to transform failure to Success Conversely, in view of the important lessons we can draw from failure, we can create a better opinion. Once we can refocus our efforts and reshape our minds, we can relaunch our campaigns towards success in a better atmosphere and preparedness.
Now equipped with better insight and experience, our chances of succeeding increases. Thus, failure can be disheartening, demoralizing and disappointing, we have to proffer ways of dealing with it positively. Notwithstanding the negative effects, we have to take out the values we can gain from such experiences so as to be better positioned for future undertakings.
Contrarily, it doesn’t mean you can’t succeed at the first time of asking or that you must fail all the time. The emphasis is on how you receive and react to a failed attempt and what you do afterwards.
Accordingly, the major aspects we need to change are our definition of failure and success, our perception and mindset about the concept of failure, our measuring tools for success and failure. With the right perspective, attitude and drive nothing, not even failure can stiffle out our potentials and prevent us from reaching the heights we envision for ourselves.