Most partners OR couples feel somewhat grouchy in regards to public displays of affection and, you’ll probably be wondering why – PERSONALITIES ARE DIFFERENT! Some partner would prefer to keep things on a low and prefer to mesmerize themselves with all the romantic mushy stuff while they’re alone or in a private space while some won’t mind giving their partners that deep, passionate kiss, holding hands, leaning on their partner’s shoulders, playing pranks while walking on the streets and so much more. For some partners, their mood might dictate of they’d be up for a PDA or not and, if this isn’t carefully managed, it might turn to something else.
1) Before you can decide on having a PDA thing with your partner, understudy them VERY WELL! Know the kind of things they like, what hypes their spirit and what puts them off. If you pay little or no attention to this, your just unknowingly signed up for a barrage of back and forth squabbles with your partner. If you study your partner very well, you’d observe that there are times he/she just wants to be normal and not cross the line with you.
2) Ensure that even if you want to do a PDA in public, it has to be something your partner wouldn’t mind. You don’t aim for a kiss when your partner would like a hug. You don’t push to cross arms when your partner needs you to just walk by their side. Knowing your partner is one thing. Understanding your partner is an entirely different ball game.
3) Know your partner beyond doing PDAs. Your partner shouldn’t only feel your impact around them when you want to do a PDA. Behind the scenes, they should even love and feel you more than anything else. Y’all don’t need the public to validate the love you have and share with your partner because, that way, your putting your love life on the public map where everyone will literally have a say and they can tell when or where or how you and your partner are rolling up. It’s okay not to hide your partner but, be mindful not to overly exposing.
Some partners are extremely sensitive and touchy; they just want to be normal around you and will feel grouchy with the PDA. The most important thing here is to nko and understand your partner behind the scenes so you won’t have to be explaining yourself unnecessarily much later. Know your partner’s likes and dislikes, know your partner’s temperaments, know the things that tick off or sit well with your partner. Doing this will help you both have a normal and healthy love life.
By: NONYE UWANDI