Quite saddening is our reality that a significant percentage of relationships cannot withstand the test of time and the travails of life. If you want to be honest, you must have had an experience of this sore phenomenon. So, to put everything in the right perspective, let us consider what constitute a dying relationship. It will suffice to say that a dying relationship is one where the engine is almost entirely out of steam ( almost in literal sense). Yes, the engine slowing down. No power is supplying or is being supplied. The energy level is way too low to propel the pistons.
Let’s leave all the engineering for now, though you must have heard of medical engineering in recent years. Maybe our heart can be reengineered emotionally, who knows? A dying relationship is one where the partners are pressured, with no interest, very low affection flowing, little commitment shown and very low morale to continue. Here, the partners lack the drive to push the relationship and are not willing to add any efforts. All the initial sweetness is all gone. It is a relationship heading for collapse and termination.
How Does a Relationship Get to the Point of Dying?
Back to the abstract physics again, “to everything there is equal and opposite reaction”, if we can even remember who said that. There is always a cause and effect principle operating in all cases. The relationship did not just die on it’s own. There are things that usually quench the fire in relationships. Let’s take a look at some of them.
Feeling Comfortable and Relaxed: We ain’t saying you need to be all hyperactive and cautious, what we mean is feeling the goal has already been achieved. So, since he or she is now “yours”, you feel all is done. You therefore put little or no effort in pleasing or making your significant other happy to have you. You are okay with just doing the minimum. You don’t look for how to impress your partner anymore. This is a very slow poison that is so potent in draining your relationship of the initial energy it had.
Unnecessary Assumptions: This is a practice that is very common to most of us. We engage in mental push-ups and come up with ideas about our partners. What they are doing, what their message meant, why their countenance is how it is, why your calls were not answered… A whole lot of things left in the damaging realm of assumptions. With time and with increasing volume of assumptions in a relationship, one party might grow weary of always having to explain and explain. The other party may be fed up with all the signs he or she feels they have been observing over time. This don’t turn out good for any relationship.
Less Empathy: Over time partners in a relationship become excessively obsessed with expectations. We fail to place ourselves in the same position as our partners. Even when there is still love, not seeming to understand the plight of our spouses can be so annoying and so discouraging.
Lack of Trust: We are gradually getting to the height of them all. Low level of trust. If there has ever been a fast effective tool in dismantling a relationship, it is this particular one. Once trust begins to fade, the relationship is already on the steep slope, heading down to dissolution. Trust is one of the core anchor of a relationship, nothing else will work, once trust is lacking.
Poor Communication: We sometimes let trivial stuff take away our joy. How hard can just talking be? Well, truth is, is hard. Some people find it so hard to have proper communication in their relationship. Some can’t hold a rational, civil conversation without tempers rising and flaring all around. Some can’t just give out relevant information to their spouse. The state of uncertainty created by this causes a lot of evils to inflict damage on a relationship. If we want to be realistic with you, there are several factors that can drag a relationship backwards and make it to lag. However, the few we have listed are vital ones you should look out for. Alternatively, you can keep following this page for other tips.