A lot of ladies guard their heart so much and so aggressive such that they become almost unapproachable by the average guy or admirer. This is not entirely their fault, some have gone through the worst treatments and heartbreaks that when they eventually managed to pick themselve up, they took to their heels and swore never to look back or fall victim again.
Some have managed to live most of their life without men around them, they have also managed to build a business or career going good for them and have been hearing a lot of negative things about men and how they love. So when approached, they protect themselve aggressively not wanting to loose all they have managed to gather. Some on the other hand don’t just know how to relate much with the opposite sex.
It’s fine to want to protect yourself from heartbreakers, cheats, love fraudsters, Yoruba Demons etc but also remember that out of all the multitude of persons trying to get to you, there is the genuine ones who simply just admire you for who you are. They may be fewer in number but they are there. Locking everyone out also means making good men shy away from you.
The twist here is, in most cases genuine admirers do not really know how to approach a lady the first time, since they are not flirts and seldom practice it. They admire you from afar for a while, may stalk you a little, study your routine, wait for their perfect chance, gather up courage and with their hearts beating like sub woofer, they approach you. Then you deliver your sting! They take to thier heels and may never try again.
Again you are not to be entirely blamed for the way you reacted or replied them, due to the fear in their mind, they may have gotten to you and lost their ability to speak. They may have also tried to speak and but kept beating around the bush or due to thier inexperienced nature, they tried speaking but the wrong words came out, all of the above could be annoying to a serios minded person.
However, understand that only the the good ones or the play boys know what to say and how to act at any given time. They know how to approach even the most difficult ladies. So being aggressive or over protective of your heart chases away genuine admirers leaving only the professionals who can approach you even in your most difficult mood. This may be the reason why the heartbreakes keeps happening.
I am not saying you should become, easy, loose, laugh at every fool that comes your way just in the name of being nice, no! But emotional intelligence also requires you be able to tell the good from the bad, sieve the bad out and keep the good. For you to do these, you will need to give everyone a fair chance.
Do not be easy, don’t be cheap, don’t tolerate nonsense, protect and value yourself and your sanity. However in the first five minute at least make it easy, smile, be welcoming and make yourself approachable. Try to also read their mind, if they seem genuine and serious in the first five, give them another five. Don’t forget also that “genuine” doesn’t always mean being sleek with words. These way you will be able to give everyone a chance to be heard including the inexperienced ones who may truly like you but don’t know how to go by it.