Few weeks ago, the internet was inundated again with the latest update on the woman, Maryam Sanda, who stabbed her husband, Bilyaminu Sanda, to death after seeing nudes of his alleged lover on his phone. She was sentenced to die by hanging for killing her husband at thier Abuja residence after they argued over a lady’s nude she saw on his phone.
Thier Union was blessed with two kids and if the death sentence goes through, those kids will finally become orphans. The question this piece seeks answers to is: who is to be blamed for all of these?
The Husband (Bilyaminu Sanda)
Should all the whole blame go to the husband for knowing fully well that he is married but still kept extra marital affairs. He probably was aware of his wife’s temperament and how she blows off on issues like that. Assuming they did not date before tying the knot, why not divorce her when he discovered she was too hot tempered to live with?
In making the decision to stay with her inspite of her rage pattern, why be so care free with his phone and it’s security, knowing fully well he had another woman’s nudes inside? What happened to leaving the house immediately she saw those photos? At least he would still be alive by now. He had all his chance to flirt and have fun while single, why marry and still maintain that lifestyle?
The Convicted Wife (Maryam Sanda)
Why the blind rage? Why so much hotness and temper inside of her? Even if she was not sentenced to death, would she have been proud to tell her kids she stabbed their father to death just because of a random woman’s nude photos? Still assuming they did not court prior to the marriage, after discovering she married a flirt and unrepentant philanderer, something she can’t condone or endure, why not take her leave? If she had to punish him for his misbehaviours, must it involve playing with sharp objects?
The Owner Of The Nude (The Husband’s Lover)
A lot of young ladies these days don’t mind dating even a man with ten wives, as far as they get the benefits they desire from it. I am not here to preach to people on how they should live thier lives, but shouldn’t we try to put ourselves in our victim’s shoes before we act sometimes? What if you are the one whose husband would not pay attention to because he has a lover outside? Would you feel very great about it? Should we then blame Bilyaminu’s lover for all the pain the Sanda family is going through right now?
She knew he was married, still she went ahead and dated him. She did not stop there, knowing fully well that the wife may bump into her husband’s phone, the woman has birthed two kids, her body shape may not be at it’s best currently. She probably is younger and may have never even gotten pregnant, hence more sexier, yet she delivered her deadly weapon to the man’s phone and destroyed their home. Should the orphaned kids now bear grudge against her forever?
In any way you decide to look at it, the summary of it all remains that, somone was flirting carelessly, someone was too quick to action and another did not respect the sanctity of marriage. On the other end, Kids have lost thier father, they are going to lose thier mother and life may strike! Some people lost thier son, brother and uncle, some will lose thier daughter, sister and aunt. Who then do we blame for all of these?