Just before I go ahead to give my 2 cents about the photo above and the questions it raised. Let me first of all state here that irrespective the inspiration behind any decision, as humans we do all we do in life for one reason or the other. No matter what the reason may be, in as much as it does not hurt or pose any serious physical danger to anyone, they are valid.
That being said, let me ask again, why do you want to marry that person you have been with for some time now? Could it be because:
He or she has done so much for you
Have you decided to marry that lady or man because of all they have done for you in the short while you have met? They were there for you when nobody was and you really needed that help at that time. They helped you out with your sick mother or father, saw you through school, gave you money to treat yourself of an ailment, treated you nicely, bought you fancy things and you feel they are all you need and want to move on with them.
He or she has been with you for quite a while
They have been with you for quite some years now, you are really not an easy person to deal with but still they have endured. They have been through a lot because of you, both under the sun and in the rain, they have stayed. Giving you a few years out of thier life is not easy, both when you were broke and when you were buoyant they persisted. You feel they are the one and you want to make it that way for life.
He or she is handsome, beautiful, rich or good in bed
She is really beautiful, with all the right proportions of everything feminine. The front is visible, succulent, round, firm and beautiful. The back is big, soft, perfectly curved and smooth. He is tall, cute, got six packs with a romantic baritone voice. They generally look great with all the physical qualities you need in a person plus they are very good in the other room with all the skills needed to take you to pleasure land and back. He or she is rich or comes from rich home, they represent a lifetime of financial security, your children will have the best life and attend good schools. Therefore they are the one for you and you don’t mind marrying them.
You love him or her so much and its real
You met them sometime ago and you both clicked immediately! It was love at first sight, they share same thoughts, dreams and aspirations with you plus they are brilliant and can keep intelligent conversations flowing. They are also beautiful with the best of smile and good sense of humour. You are crazy in love and they feel same way too, so nothing should hold you back again, its marriage for you!
Like I said before, irrespective of whatever your inspirations behind something is, we all have reasons why we do anything we do in life. In as much as that reason does not hurt or pose any real physical harm or danger to anyone, they are very valid and you should go ahead. Some people go to school for the passion of education, some just to gain knowledge, some for certificate and some others to make money after they graduate. Not withstanding the reason, they are all right and no one can invalidate the reason of the other.
Behind every major inspiration or reason are smaller inspirations or reasons, the person who married for love, also noticed the partner’s beauty too, they also got some help from him or her, they probably also dated for a while and all of that contributed to the final decision. Likewise the person who married for sympathy of time spent together, they did have feelings for their partner too, they also noticed their beauty and endowments, and probably got help from them too.
What ever your reasons may be, just make sure the person have the basic character you need and just enough attraction to endure any trouble that may arise from them. Also make sure you respect them and thier shortcomings and they respect you same way too. With the right mindset, every other thing can be picked up or dropped as time progresses. Love alone is not enough for any marriage to survive, neither is any other virtue. A combination of them makes a successful marriage and the absence of any in the start is not a guarantee for failure. Anyone of them could be absent at anytime provided the others make up for it. Whatever you do, have the right mindset, make sure you are prepared for marriage itself and hurt no one!