People date or enter into relationships with different pictures on thier mind. A lot of youths and teenagers often fantasize about how romantic, smooth and perfect thier relationship would be. They create a jolly rollercoaster story of how they would always play, share good times with thier partner and cherish the moments forever.
When they eventually begin dating and the flip side of things begin to unfold, they opt to leave. The constant arguments and misunderstandings were never part of the plan and even if they were considered, a simple “I am sorry” is enough. The fantasies were straight and simple, this reality is getting unnecessarily complicated. Once someone offers or proposes a near fantasy wooing or story outside, off they go.
Relationships are not for the immature, love itself is sometimes pain. That two people have stayed together for a long time, means they have gone through difficult times and have had to endure and forgive a lot of things you may not like to hear. Ask the neck how it has managed to stay with the head all these years, you will hear a load, patience, endurance, forgive and offload love story.
Date someone who is mature enough to want to stay back and fix things when it gets all messy and rough. By maturity here, I don’t mean age, but mentality and state of mind. Have a relationship with someone who is able to look at things, outline the problems, draw up possible solutions, sit you down and talk things through.
Communication is as important as love itself in relationships. You could have the best of intentions but failure to get the other person to understand you may cause permanent problems for the relationship. Date someone who will take time to understand you and the way your mind works. This way, when arguments arise, they are able to calm you down and explain properly.
Date someone mature enough to want to calm down and listen to you, understand your views, opinions and treat them respectfully. If it would need adjustments, they would point them out and make you see the flaws in your logic. Date someone who would rather want to fix issues than take the easy road and walk away. They are the real keepers.