So many people confuse these four words a lot, they enter into relationships not understanding them, not knowing what they want and what they expect from thier partners. In the end, many gets heartbroken and blames it all on their partner. Because they still have not figured out the difference, they repeat same mistakes over and over and end up joining a popular group or opinion. Either the “men are scum” or “women are whores”.
This is in no way trying to say that people don’t get truly deceived, played or legitimately heartbroken, but a lot of us do not know or understand what we feel, therefore can not tell the difference on the other person, hence we get easily deceived. Let’s us take a look at them individually:
This includes every other intimate activity between two people which may or may not include thrusting of the penis into the vagina, with the purpose of attaining pleasure, reproduction or both. Sex is a very powerful activity that can create connection between two people and it is very important and necessary for every relationship to survive on the long term.
The feeling, temporary connection, pleasure and passion that comes along with sex often gets a long of people confusing sex with love. You can actually have a deep sexual chemistry that lasts a while with someone and not love that person at all and have no desire to build any relationship with him or her.
You could tell them they are beautiful, handsome, sexy and you love them, while the whole activity plays out. They on the other end will go ahead to read the intense passion and the words that follow as love and begin to attach emotions to them.
Sex is an important ingredient of love and erotic love can barely survive for long without it. However, sexual feeling is a feeling of it’s own and does not require love to survive. It clearly stands alone irrespective of any feeling whatsoever, that is why someone could hate you, for some gains or reasons, go ahead to have sex with you and still enjoy it. That does not prevent them from harming you.
Someone could stop loving you but still feel sexually attracted to you. Someone could love you so much but your sexual chemistry may not connect as thick as the person who don’t love you at all. It is also possible for someone to only sexually admire you and confuse the feeling for love. They would then go ahead to preach their undying love for you, hang around you long enough, work hard enough to prove their words and impress you. When they finally get to have a taste of you and enough of it, it all clears and vanishes like a cloud and they disappear with it.
We could go on and on about sex and sexual feelings but one thing is certain, love could mean sex, but sex is never love. Love could start from sex but will need other important ingredients to sustain it on the long run or it would just die off with the feeling. Some people brake your heart not because they intended to, but they sometimes simply do not understand what they feel. So know your feelings and the difference so you can avoid stories that touch.
To be continued…(next: Lust)
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