A child that gets stung by a bee today will get afraid when it sees a dragon fly tomorrow. The fear of going through another bad relationship, being loved the wrong way or getting used for childish or selfish gain has made a lot of people to tighten up thier heart and mind, consequently becoming hostile and unapproachable.
So many ladies have had to go through the worst emotional treatment and trauma in the name of love and relationship. They gave thier heart, love, body and time just to see things work. They sacrificed thier pride and ego, worked and endured all sorts, got used for sexual gains and wasted years of thier life just to meet dissapointment in the end, not once or twice but same cycle keeps repeating with several guys. Now they are scared to reply a simple “hi” from a baby.
In the same light, so many men have gone through hell in the hands of ladies, just because they loved and trusted them wholeheartedly. Severally they have met women they thought was different from the others, they invested their time, spent their money, pumped in thier energy and took responsibilities that were not theirs to shoulder. In the end, all thier feelings and effort fell on the wrong heart, putting them through the worst emotional pains.
By the time these two victims meet, both are afraid and suspicious of each other. They are drawn to each other but don’t seem to want to come out of the fortress they have built to protect thier heart. No matter how much love have made you go through in the past, no matter how many bad persons you have had to deal with and how much you have been used, never give up on love.
There is someone for everyone out there, a woman for every man and a man for every woman. Yours may be by the corner yearning for your attention, he or she may not look your description of partner but with love, they would do. You are stronger than your past, if you went through it and survived it, you are much bigger than it. Do not get afraid of everyone because of a few, let your heart open for the sincere but becareful and confirm they are sincere.
Do not lock the rest of the world out, we all need someone to hold on to. Forget about the ones who do not deserve you and don’t suffer another for it. Drop your fears, build your self esteem, love again, this time more carefully. forgive and make peace with your past, let go and let God deal with it. Give love another chance!