Finding oneself in an abusive relationship is traumatic and mentally degrading. Soaking up all that hurt and struggling with the pain can cause a rather permanent emotional scar. Even after getting out of such relationships, victims still feel the effects and have to live with it on a long term.
Coming out of an abusive relationship does not immediately remove its damage on your emotional and psychological balance. Some struggle with it for as long as thier lives, even after finding love and happiness with another partner.
Here are some long term effects of emotional abuse:
1. Feeling Void Or Numb
After a while of going through an emotional treatment, sufferers often begin to lose feeling for everything. They tend to feel nothing and become indifferent and unresponsive. This is a way thier emotions try to defend and protect them from the pains they feel. They end up not feeling good, not feeling bad but with a lot of trauma inside
2. Anger And Hate
They begin to resent the source of their pain and feel nothing but anger towards them. This feeling usually comes after a while of numbness and indifference. Aggression sets in and they find annoying even the footsteps of thier partner, having outbursts for the slimmest reasons and devoping an unpredictable violent attitude.
3. Feeling Powerless
Sometimes after going through emotional abuse for a long while, partners begin to feel powerless. This is especially if leaving the relationship is difficult for some reason. They feel as though there is nothing they can do about it and they have to endure it and pray it stops someday.
4. Substance Abuse And Sleeping Disorder
After a while of enduring, they begin to look for an alternate source of happiness. The urge to escape thier misery and immediate environment drives them into alcoholism and other addictive substances. The trauma coupled with the substance abuse may end up causing insomnia and nightmares which further impacts their mental wellbeing.
5. Loss Of Identity, Trust Issues and Approval Seeking
After the abuse has taken root in thier emotions, they begin to feel like they are half the person they were before and rather than be theirself, they strive to become the person their partner wants them to be. They lose trust in others and begin to feel no one can love them truly and sincerely they way they are. Since they are now used to hearing “you are not good enough for me”, they begin craving approval from any who care to give. Trying extremely hard to look thier best and trying to prove a point at the slightest chance just to make up for thier chartered self esteem.
6. Shock, Anxiety, depression And Underperformance
By this time, they have suffered so long they feel hopeless. Their spirit is low and they feel defeated. This creates an emotional shock leading to anxiety at the slightest trigger. They inevitably fall into depression and become withdrawn from everyone, this goes ahead to affect thier output at work and impacts their performance.
If you have someone who have been a victim of emotional abuse or currently struggling with an abusive relationship, first you have to be there for them and show them that they are loved. Make them accept the fact that they are emotionally abused and convince them to leave that relationship. Get them help from a professional if need be and walk through the process with them.