Have you ever been in a relationship where you feel like you are still single? Your partner is physically present in your life, you see them always and spend time around them but you somehow still feel like you are alone whenever you are around them. Could it be that you don’t love them any more or could it be something more?
Yes, Diminishing love could actually cause one to feel lonely in thier relationship, but what could be responsible for the sudden downturn of the exciting love you both shared?
Love is like a burning fire fueled by both our desires, feelings and actions. Once the supply of the fuel that helped it burn grows thin, the love begins to flicker. Unfortunately we are in the digital age where two people could actually be in front of each other and still prefer to play with thier phones instead of talking and connecting. Love requires attention and affection and we only get this by spending quality time with the ones we love. What happened to the times you spent with each other doing nothing but playing, the calls, texts, hangouts and outings, the soul to soul discussions etc. That you finally got them to love you does not mean you stop doing these things, infact that is when you should put in more effort to make it more interesting.
Quarrels and Resentments
Understandably as humans, we are bound to step on each other’s nerves from time to time. We are not perfect and make mistakes a lot, these imperfections sometimes hurt the people around us, making them feel unhappy. Sometimes these quarrels are carelessly allowed to pile up as against being sorted out when they happened and this leads to the resentment of a partner. These resentments may overtime become a part of the relationship, making one partner feel lonely even with the presence of the other.
Whatever the reasons are, never make the one you love feel like they are alone even when you are there with them, that is a huge affection killer. Communicate with them, connect to thier rhythm, drop the phones and other devices, talk to them and bond like lovers should. Avoid acting distracted, even if you are facing any problems, both at work, in your life or anywhere else, talk to them about it. Let them be part of your whole process and evolution. Continue to do the things you did when you where still wooing and crushing at them. Keep the fire of your love burning always, do not let your partner feel lonely in your presence. When you are there, please be there!