The saying that “nothing is ever completely a waste” is very true but most people fail to notice or apply that to the people they meet and the relationships they have had in the course of thier lives. It may be because we are too disoriented to notice what we have learnt or that the relationship ended so bitter or heart broken that we don’t notice.
Not every relationship you go into must work out, but that it did not work out does not mean you can not gain or learn very important things from them while it lasted. Either bitter or sweet, knowledge is knowledge and lessons are lessons, they should help you as you move on and make you either more refined and matured as a person or more smarter in your choice next time.
Nowadays youths are so disoriented that if they don’t gain material things like phones, gadgets, money, sex etc from a relationship, they feel they have gained nothing. How about gaining a little of that persons good attitudes and attributes? Gaining a little of their knowledge and learning from their little experiences, getting to understand that people think differently and have thier own believes.
Your relationships over the years should refine you and help you become a better and smarter person, even if they have not worked out, you should pick a thing or two from there. Even bitter lessons are very good lessons! If you have been into a bad relationship and don’t learn a thing from your experience, then you are a write off. You should learn your bitter lessons so you can run when you encounter such persons again or at least advice and teach others from your experience, including your younger ones.
If you have been lucky to date someone rich and the only thing you gained there was money, phones and all, you are also a waste of time. How about thier knowledge, business experience and strategies, thier connections and contacts? What if they even carry you along on the business trips, how about you get the money from them, start up your own business and let them guide you in growing them. Do you just want to be someone who is always looking for rich people to date for material gains?
Everyone you meet and date have something to teach you. Good or bad, all teachings are important, if not for yourself, your lessons can inspire others. Do not concentrate on the material things, the sex or the money. Let it be a process or phase for you to become a better person, let it reform you into the responsible adult you will grow into tomorrow. Let it also teach you how to relate and respect others, thier different views of life and if there are important knowledge to get, grab it! All other things should come as bonus. Not everyone will be your life partner, but everyone can teach you a thing or two, learn as you date.