It is almost a crime today to be single in our society, especially those who have reached age of marriage but still yet to be married. You walk past the street, greet a few people and most of the discussions will end in “when are you going to invite us to eat rice?”. You Meet an old friend and after exchanging pleasantries, next thing is “how is your Husband/wife and children?”. Attend a family event and your ear drums will almost burst with “ahh! ahh!! Our throat is scratching us o, When are we going to eat rice and take one bottle na?”.
You visit your mum and if you are unlucky to have a marriage nagging mother, you are finished! She will remind you that she got married 10 years before your current age or that your father married her 20 years younger than you are. She would then go ahead to ask if you do not want her to see her grand children before she dies. Everywhere you go, pressure to get married mounts. Even your friends and colleagues would go ahead to arrange dates and match fix you with someone they feel is good enough to marry you.
The younger folks are not left out, not having a boyfriend or girlfriend these days is like a misdemeanor. Your friends make mockery of you, your family thinks you are trying to make yourself appear descent by saying you are single. You are in your early twenties and attractive, you meet a new person, they ask after your status and you say you are single, they would say it’s a lie, you can’t be this young, attractive and free without someone in your life, is it a crime now?
No one cares to know the pain you may be going through, the experiences you have had with previous partners, the traumer you may be going through. They don’t even care about your pocket, if you are financially ready to support a family. They don’t care about your mental health, if you are even ready for a relationship or marriage or if you are the type of person for marriage in the first place. They careless about your ambitions and other life pursuits. They don’t even want to hear that you have not found someone suitable for you. Everybody just wants to identify with that institution, nobody wants to be alone, tagged single, not married or not dating, so they force it down your throat too.
So I salute every single person out there, facing life squarely on your own and giving it your best fight. Don’t want to know what your reasons are and why you have chosen to stay single but you are doing very fine. It is ok to be single, do not let the society push you into doing something you don’t want yet or may not be ready for. Only you knows you and your innermost desires. You may be going through a dark time, your past attempts may have put you through hell and you just want to breath, recover, live for yourself first and rediscover yourself. It’s fine.
Do what is best for you and take your time. If and when you are eventually ready, you will make a better choice and decision. If you decide you want to remain single till death, then that’s absolutely fine. Live your best life and impact the world the best way you can, not everybody is meant to get married and not everyone will. Stay strong, stay happy and live without regrets. In the end, you are all that matters.